What Is Parallel Parenting?

Parenting with another person after a divorce can be complicated. If you are a parent going through the divorce process you may have heard the terms co-parenting or parallel parenting but do not know exactly what they mean. Parallel parenting can be a good solution for divorced parties who are unable to co-parent because they are unable to communicate without arguments and disputes.

Strong co-parenting relationships are not always possible. If you are not able to productively co-parent, consider other options. Parallel parenting could be an approach to consider when walking through the divorce process in New Jersey or Pennsylvania. Talk to a Bucks County family attorney to learn about what approach may be best for your situation.

Parallel Parenting for a Period of Time

Couples who experience a lot of conflicts and fights may turn to parallel parenting when going through the divorce process. It may be possible to later co-parent, once disputes have settled and each individual has moved forward with their separate lives.

Essentially, parallel parenting is an approach that reduces the need for the parents to interact. Guidelines are agreed to that allow each parent to spend time with the kids without having to talk to one another on a regular basis.

Some of the reasons it could be beneficial to pursue parallel parenting include the following:

• Reduction of stress and conflict. If the parents are unable to get along, sometimes it is best if they do not communicate.
• Children can enjoy a relationship with each parent. When parallel parenting works, the adults will not speak negatively about the other parent but simply enjoy the parenting time that they have which is outlined in a parenting agreement.
• Gives divorced individual independence. Because you are not co-parenting, you do not need to communicate every choice you make in regards to raising your child. Instead, you follow the agreed upon guidelines and can then make decisions within those parameters.

Co-parenting has grown in popularity, but it isn’t the solution for every family. If you are in the middle of a high-conflict divorce, a parallel parenting approach may be a better path to pursue.

Avoid Arguing in Front of the Kids

Studies have shown that parental conflict can have a negative impact on kids. When a child witnesses their parents having frequent, explosive arguments, poor academic performance, behavioral issues, and physical pains may follow due to the child worrying and stressing about the situation. Finding an approach that reduces conflict could be a healthy solution for your entire family. If every discussion quickly escalates into a fight, explore the possibility of parallel parenting. A Bucks County family attorney can help.

What parenting approach will work best for you and your ex-spouse? A skilled lawyer has the experience to secure the future you are seeking. The family law attorneys at Kardos, Rickles & Hand help. Our dedicated legal team understands the finer points of family law. There are opportunities to create the life you want. Schedule your consultation today, call 215-968-6602.