Waiting Until Kids Have Grown To Divorce May Not Be Best Option
The impact a separation and divorce will have on the kids is a conversation many spouses have when they agree the time to end the marriage is near. Some feel they should wait until the kids have grown up, in an effort to avoid the negative impacts a divorce can have. But it is important to also recognize moving forward with a divorce may be the best answer when a marriage is troubled, and there can be benefits for the kids.
Hostile marriages can be detrimental for children. If you are ready to show your kids life can be lived without being in an unhealthy relationship, talk to a Bucks County family attorney about your options. A brighter future, for you and your kids, may be closer than you imagine.
Unhealthy Marriages Can Have a Negative Impact
Staying together is not always the right solution. After all, parents who are in an unhealthy marriage may be showing their children an adulthood full of emotional distress and depression. When parents are unhappy, it is possible kids will develop mental health issues in response to the stressful home. Tension at home can lead to kids suffering from depression, for example. There have also been examples of children who grew up with parents in a toxic relationship having trouble connecting with others as adults, fear of intimacy is possible.
While there are studies that point to the benefits of a child growing up in a two-parent household, it needs to be recognized that these studies are often assuming there are healthy lifestyles being exhibited in the home. If the parents are fighting and the household is a toxic environment, the benefits of a two-parent home are quickly diminished.
If you absolutely want to wait until the kids are out of the house before separating, consider taking steps to improve the marriage. There are many resources available for couples who are struggling, including counseling and therapy.
Choosing a Healthy and Happy Life
When a marriage can’t be repaired, parents can set an example for their kids of the importance of choosing a life that brings health and happiness. Many divorced parents find their stress is lifted once they are able to move forward with their lives. Then, they can create grounded relationships with their kids.
Ideally, parents will be able to agree on a parenting plan. This cooperation can be a good example to kids of how important they are to the family and that two people who disagree on some things can put those differences aside for the good of the children. Talk to a Bucks County family attorney to learn more.
Are you weighing the pros and cons of divorcing now or waiting until the kids are older? Talk to a legal professional to understand what options are available. The family law attorneys at Kardos, Rickles & Hand help. Our dedicated legal team understands the finer points of family law. There are opportunities to create the life you want. Schedule your consultation today, call 215-968-6602.