Is It Time for a Divorce?
The decision to end a marriage can be difficult. After all, it is likely you have put a lot of work and time into trying to save the relationship. It is important you are certain before moving forward with divorce paperwork. Once a person tells their spouse and files paperwork, it is unlikely the process will reverse course.
If a marriage can be salvaged, discussion of reconciliation with the help of marriage counseling could be a solution. But, if you have tried counseling and see a break-up in your future, it may be time to discuss your situation with a Bucks County family attorney.
Lack of Communication Is Unhealthy
In order for a relationship to last a long time and thrive the individuals within the couple need to be able to talk to one another. Disagreements will happen, but when communication is healthy the people will be able to listen to one another and possibly see another side of the situation. From there, finding a middle ground and putting the argument aside may be possible.
When a relationship is unhealthy, couples may refuse to talk to one another. Or, they shout and yell at one another but never communicate outside of fighting.
To promote constructive communication, keep the following suggestions in mind:
- Rather than accusing with “you” messages, focus on “I” messages.
- Focus on the problem itself, not attacking the person.
- Move toward future solutions rather than bringing up past problems.
- Be aware of body language signals.
- Avoid the urge to shut down emotionally or be defensive.
- Share specific feelings and concerns.
An experienced counselor can share communication strategies with couples. It takes time and work to resolve negative feelings. But if feelings are not dealt with, negative feelings can lead to disgust and anger which put a relationship in danger of ending. Marriages with continued negativity are often not able to survive.
Making a Decision to Be Happy
While all relationships have highs and lows, including marriages, when you stay in any relationship it is likely you are doing so because the good times are plentiful enough to outweigh any miscommunications.
Before filing divorce paperwork, it is worth weighing the good times with the bad times. If you are unhappy and have been unhappy for a long period of time, it is essential a change is made. Marriages should bring contentment, not continual anger and sadness.
The decision to divorce should not be made abruptly. Take your time, discuss your concerns with a counselor. Ending a marriage leads to significant life changes. If you have divorce questions, or you are at a point where you are confident it is time to move forward with a divorce, contact a Bucks County family attorney. An experienced lawyer can let you know what is possible for you as far as financial concerns and property issues after a divorce.
Have you tried to salvage a marriage but feel it is time to divorce? The attorneys at Kardos, Rickles & Hand can represent you and secure the future you want. Our lawyers pay attention to every detail and work for you. Schedule your free consultation today, call (215) 968-6602.